What is a Worldview?
A worldview is the framework from which we view reality and make sense of life and the world. “It’s any ideology, philosophy, theology, movement or religion that provides an overarching approach to understanding God, the world and man’s relations to God and the world,” says David Noebel, author of ‘Understanding the Times’.
Most of us receive our worldview from the community into which we are born and remain committed to it throughout our lives. Some of us, however, encounter situations or have experiences which cannot be explained by our inherited worldview. Whether conscious or subconscious, every person has some type of worldview. A personal worldview is a combination of all you believe to be true, and what you believe becomes the driving force behind every emotion, decision and action. Therefore, it affects your response to every area of life: from philosophy to science, theology and anthropology to economics, law, politics, art and social order. It affects essentially everything. For example, let’s suppose you have bought the idea that beauty is in the eye of the beholder (secular relative truth) as opposed to beauty as defined by God’s purity and creativity (absolute truth), then any art piece, no matter how vulgar or abstract, would be considered ‘art’, a creation of beauty. Whatever the culture in which we live, 1 John 2:16 lists three desires of the heart that reveal worldliness: "the cravings of sinful man, the lust of his eyes, and the boasting of what he has or does." David Jackman comments, "The 'worldly' characteristics of which the verse speaks are in fact reactions going on inside us as we contemplate the environment outside." In other words, the root issue when it comes to worldliness is internal in nature, not environmental. John is equipping us to discern worldliness where it first lurks: within the heart.
A worldview is the framework from which we view reality and make sense of life and the world. “It’s any ideology, philosophy, theology, movement or religion that provides an overarching approach to understanding God, the world and man’s relations to God and the world,” says David Noebel, author of ‘Understanding the Times’.
Most of us receive our worldview from the community into which we are born and remain committed to it throughout our lives. Some of us, however, encounter situations or have experiences which cannot be explained by our inherited worldview. Whether conscious or subconscious, every person has some type of worldview. A personal worldview is a combination of all you believe to be true, and what you believe becomes the driving force behind every emotion, decision and action. Therefore, it affects your response to every area of life: from philosophy to science, theology and anthropology to economics, law, politics, art and social order. It affects essentially everything. For example, let’s suppose you have bought the idea that beauty is in the eye of the beholder (secular relative truth) as opposed to beauty as defined by God’s purity and creativity (absolute truth), then any art piece, no matter how vulgar or abstract, would be considered ‘art’, a creation of beauty. Whatever the culture in which we live, 1 John 2:16 lists three desires of the heart that reveal worldliness: "the cravings of sinful man, the lust of his eyes, and the boasting of what he has or does." David Jackman comments, "The 'worldly' characteristics of which the verse speaks are in fact reactions going on inside us as we contemplate the environment outside." In other words, the root issue when it comes to worldliness is internal in nature, not environmental. John is equipping us to discern worldliness where it first lurks: within the heart.
Cravings. The "cravings of sinful man" are not the legitimate desires of the body. They are the illegitimate, idolatrous cravings and tendencies of the non-Christian, or of the Christian who continues to be excessively influenced by sin. Indeed, due to indwelling sin the heart can defile even legitimate desires, transforming them into idolatrous cravings. This is why John Calvin observed that "the evil in our desire typically does not lie in what we want, but that we want it too much."
Materialism, at its simpler level, involves the focus on material "things" as opposed to that which is spiritual or intellectual in nature. We live in a world surrounded by and composed of matter. It is natural, therefore, that we may become distracted from spiritual or intellectual pursuits by material possessions, but this is frequently where problems occur. We can become obsessed by a desire to obtain them, or simply frustrated by the need to maintain them.
We live in a time of confusion, where evil is considered good, where darkness is perceived as light, and where needless things are viewed as essential.
Materialism, at its simpler level, involves the focus on material "things" as opposed to that which is spiritual or intellectual in nature. We live in a world surrounded by and composed of matter. It is natural, therefore, that we may become distracted from spiritual or intellectual pursuits by material possessions, but this is frequently where problems occur. We can become obsessed by a desire to obtain them, or simply frustrated by the need to maintain them.
We live in a time of confusion, where evil is considered good, where darkness is perceived as light, and where needless things are viewed as essential.
This tragedy has occurred because of the materialism that humanity has fallen into. This tragedy was the result of humanity placing the spirit last, giving preference to the passions of the matter and the ideas of death. If the matter is selfish, what other fruit could you expect from it, other than the wars that exist and complete moral deterioration?
When man falls into materialism, his deeds become destructive rather than creative. Love for the world, greediness for material things, lust for the flesh, the pleasure of all lowly desires, egotism, love for oneself, and pride, have been the force with which you have created a life according to your intelligence and human free will.
The pleasure and satisfactions that man receives from his deeds is artificial. Hidden behind his smiling mask, he bears within his heart the pain, the anxiety and the disillusionment.
It is useless for man to seek total satisfaction only in materialism. Everything is sad and empty.
The questions this attitude should cause us to ask are, "Are material things really more important than anything else? Is material success the highest goal? If things are all there are, what's life all about? Why am I here at all? If life is really just about materialism, why should I even try to live a moral life? What does it matter how I treat others or how I live, as long as I have what I want? Why does what I believe about the origin of life matter?"
Websites to visit on the Subject of Materialism
Madonna’s song - Material Girl
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_CQHIP-38jA
Marilyn Monroe’s Song – Diamonds are A Girls Best Friend
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0L8sHIU8YAg
ZsaZsa Gabor is interviewed by Comedian Norman Gunston
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GkDhDOBAONk
Elizabeth Taylor – A glimpse of the Taylor -Burton Diamond
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0RzBMJZlyiI
A Tour of the Pierre Hotel in NYC
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UijzzKV5N94&feature=related
Take a peek at these Greek Yachts
http://www.afroudakisyachting.com/charters/charter.aspx?id=4&sid=-1&cid=8
A Quick Trip to Aspen
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l3OmNrOolBM&feature=related
World’s Most Expensive Home (s)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Psg6H_lkqO0&feature=related
World’s Most Expensive Automobiles
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jUXDWOBpmtQ
Most Expensive Yachts
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k7VSCl4Og9Y
When man falls into materialism, his deeds become destructive rather than creative. Love for the world, greediness for material things, lust for the flesh, the pleasure of all lowly desires, egotism, love for oneself, and pride, have been the force with which you have created a life according to your intelligence and human free will.
The pleasure and satisfactions that man receives from his deeds is artificial. Hidden behind his smiling mask, he bears within his heart the pain, the anxiety and the disillusionment.
It is useless for man to seek total satisfaction only in materialism. Everything is sad and empty.
The questions this attitude should cause us to ask are, "Are material things really more important than anything else? Is material success the highest goal? If things are all there are, what's life all about? Why am I here at all? If life is really just about materialism, why should I even try to live a moral life? What does it matter how I treat others or how I live, as long as I have what I want? Why does what I believe about the origin of life matter?"
Websites to visit on the Subject of Materialism
Madonna’s song - Material Girl
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_CQHIP-38jA
Marilyn Monroe’s Song – Diamonds are A Girls Best Friend
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0L8sHIU8YAg
ZsaZsa Gabor is interviewed by Comedian Norman Gunston
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GkDhDOBAONk
Elizabeth Taylor – A glimpse of the Taylor -Burton Diamond
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0RzBMJZlyiI
A Tour of the Pierre Hotel in NYC
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UijzzKV5N94&feature=related
Take a peek at these Greek Yachts
http://www.afroudakisyachting.com/charters/charter.aspx?id=4&sid=-1&cid=8
A Quick Trip to Aspen
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l3OmNrOolBM&feature=related
World’s Most Expensive Home (s)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Psg6H_lkqO0&feature=related
World’s Most Expensive Automobiles
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jUXDWOBpmtQ
Most Expensive Yachts
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k7VSCl4Og9Y
Most Expensive Private Jets
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AXouGTFpZP0&feature=related
Las Vegas Suites
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Suw7TsP0qo
Green Acres Theme Song
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mbk81X6WHA4&feature=related
Janis Joplin – Mercedes Benz
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C-GFqhCq2HA
Baby Your Rich Man – Beatles
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gEu7fcjgWK0
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AXouGTFpZP0&feature=related
Las Vegas Suites
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Suw7TsP0qo
Green Acres Theme Song
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mbk81X6WHA4&feature=related
Janis Joplin – Mercedes Benz
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C-GFqhCq2HA
Baby Your Rich Man – Beatles
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gEu7fcjgWK0
Boasting/Pride
"All Your Lies"by 10 Years
Songwriters: Lewis Cosby; Jesse Hasek; Brian Vodinh; Matt Wantland
Pay attention, pay attention, pay attention please.
He who lusts through life for excess in this world.
Dies a lonely man, careless of his soul.
Throwing caution to the wind with foolish ignorance.
You're full of pride.Full of pride.Full of pride.
And in arrogance you can't accept the nearing end of this short lived life.
Smile and give a toast, brag and boast.
Fool the world with all of your lies.
The parasite's host never even knows.
Pull the wool over our eyes.
Walk the line and pay the price.
A pound of flesh for paradise.
Wear the wounds of your demise.
Fail to mention your intentions, fail to mention why.
The actions of your life contradict your words...
The path in which you walk is a vice of no remorse.
Washing conscience from the skin, claiming innocence.
Ignore the signs.
Smile and give a toast, brag and boast.
Fool the world with all of your lies.
The parasite's host never even knows.
Pull the wool over our eyes.
Walk the line and pay the price.
A pound of flesh for paradise.
Wear the wounds of your demise.
A pound of flesh for paradise.
Bend the truth till you can't find it.
Find it.
Twist your lies till you don't mind them.
Mind them.
Walk the line and pay the price.
A pound of flesh for paradise.
Wear the wounds of your demise.
Demise.
From cradle to grave, you chose to trade.
A pound of flesh for paradise.
Wear the wounds of your demise.
"All Your Lies"by 10 Years
Songwriters: Lewis Cosby; Jesse Hasek; Brian Vodinh; Matt Wantland
Pay attention, pay attention, pay attention please.
He who lusts through life for excess in this world.
Dies a lonely man, careless of his soul.
Throwing caution to the wind with foolish ignorance.
You're full of pride.Full of pride.Full of pride.
And in arrogance you can't accept the nearing end of this short lived life.
Smile and give a toast, brag and boast.
Fool the world with all of your lies.
The parasite's host never even knows.
Pull the wool over our eyes.
Walk the line and pay the price.
A pound of flesh for paradise.
Wear the wounds of your demise.
Fail to mention your intentions, fail to mention why.
The actions of your life contradict your words...
The path in which you walk is a vice of no remorse.
Washing conscience from the skin, claiming innocence.
Ignore the signs.
Smile and give a toast, brag and boast.
Fool the world with all of your lies.
The parasite's host never even knows.
Pull the wool over our eyes.
Walk the line and pay the price.
A pound of flesh for paradise.
Wear the wounds of your demise.
A pound of flesh for paradise.
Bend the truth till you can't find it.
Find it.
Twist your lies till you don't mind them.
Mind them.
Walk the line and pay the price.
A pound of flesh for paradise.
Wear the wounds of your demise.
Demise.
From cradle to grave, you chose to trade.
A pound of flesh for paradise.
Wear the wounds of your demise.
Many would assume that pride is over confidence or over active self-esteem. The outwardly arrogant nature of pride leads to bragging, boasting, and an overly defensive nature. Many people think the arrogant, bragging, boastful person struggling with pride really believes their boasts and is an overly confident person. But bragging, boasting and the easily offended nature of those overly defensive is not caused by too much self-confidence but a lack of self-confidence. If they were truly confident in who they were they would not have to brag, boast and be self defensive. They wouldn't have to tear others down to build themselves up.
A person who is sure of themselves doesn't have to "prove" anything. Those who are confident and know who they are don't have to brag, look down on others to make themselves feel better, boast, nor be overly defensive when criticized. They can handle it. They are humble. They can admit when they are wrong. They know they are not better than anyone is and no one is better than they are. They don't have to prove anything to anyone or themselves.
Bragging and boasting comes from a person who is unconfident and so he/she over-compensates with bragging, boasting, and looking down on others faults while exalting themselves in their own eyes. Low self-esteem is pride.
Think back to high school or Jr. High. It wasn't the kids with good self-esteem who picked on everyone and thought they were better than everyone. It was the kids with empty holes in their hearts, longing for acceptance and popularity that took pride in their looks, social status, sports ability, money, intelligence, or circle of friends. They were proud, arrogant and snooty because down deep they were totally insecure and had major self-esteem problems. They were comparing themselves with others. To make them feel better about those they didn't match up to they belittled those who they felt superior too. Low self-esteem is what tempts us to the sin of pride.
Infatuation/Conditional Love
Romance is always considered to be a pleasant experience. Maximum numbers of novels are based on romance only. So are many movies and television shows. However, many romances end as a failure because the initial infatuation covers up the negative traits. Later on, when the knowledge of such negative aspects starts growing, disenchantment sets in.
A person who is sure of themselves doesn't have to "prove" anything. Those who are confident and know who they are don't have to brag, look down on others to make themselves feel better, boast, nor be overly defensive when criticized. They can handle it. They are humble. They can admit when they are wrong. They know they are not better than anyone is and no one is better than they are. They don't have to prove anything to anyone or themselves.
Bragging and boasting comes from a person who is unconfident and so he/she over-compensates with bragging, boasting, and looking down on others faults while exalting themselves in their own eyes. Low self-esteem is pride.
Think back to high school or Jr. High. It wasn't the kids with good self-esteem who picked on everyone and thought they were better than everyone. It was the kids with empty holes in their hearts, longing for acceptance and popularity that took pride in their looks, social status, sports ability, money, intelligence, or circle of friends. They were proud, arrogant and snooty because down deep they were totally insecure and had major self-esteem problems. They were comparing themselves with others. To make them feel better about those they didn't match up to they belittled those who they felt superior too. Low self-esteem is what tempts us to the sin of pride.
Infatuation/Conditional Love
Romance is always considered to be a pleasant experience. Maximum numbers of novels are based on romance only. So are many movies and television shows. However, many romances end as a failure because the initial infatuation covers up the negative traits. Later on, when the knowledge of such negative aspects starts growing, disenchantment sets in.
Love promoted by this world’s standard is conditional love. Relationships of love lived outside the Christian Faith have many “ifs.” Love is conditioned by the attitude, “If you meet my needs then I’ll meet yours. In the view of many people today God has been humanized. God’s love has been perverted. Many view God as a giant Bayer aspirin. Take god three times a day and everything will work out alright. God’s love has been refashioned into man’s own image and likeness.
Conditional love is selfish love. Selfish love is the attitude that God made man to indulge in lust. Selfish love will tell you to pull your own strings, manipulate others through intimidation, do anything to get your own way.
In marriage, conditional love often plays the game of one-upmanship. I’m one good deed up on you so you owe me. “I carried out the trash, you must do the dishes. I worked ten hours today, you must tuck the kids into bed. I was the last one to say, “I love you,” Now it’s your turn.”
Conditional love is mechanical and cold and does not last.
Conditional selfish love says, “It’s my way or you take the highway.” Selfish love quickly turns to anger and often ends in violence. Selfish love practices the opposite of what Jesus taught that we are to love our neighbours.
Conditional love is selfish love. Selfish love is the attitude that God made man to indulge in lust. Selfish love will tell you to pull your own strings, manipulate others through intimidation, do anything to get your own way.
In marriage, conditional love often plays the game of one-upmanship. I’m one good deed up on you so you owe me. “I carried out the trash, you must do the dishes. I worked ten hours today, you must tuck the kids into bed. I was the last one to say, “I love you,” Now it’s your turn.”
Conditional love is mechanical and cold and does not last.
Conditional selfish love says, “It’s my way or you take the highway.” Selfish love quickly turns to anger and often ends in violence. Selfish love practices the opposite of what Jesus taught that we are to love our neighbours.
A good example is the following article written by DiscoveryHealth.com writers (10 May 2005) "When is it time to leave the relationship?"
Is it time to leave your relationship?
You've given it your all. You've even tried counselling. You're considering leaving the relationship and even though things still aren't working right, you're not sure if leaving the relationship is the best thing to do. We talk about when to leave a relationship in this article so you can decide for yourself if leaving the relationship you are in is right for you.
Dennis Neder, an ordained minister and author of Being a Man in a Woman's World, says as long as kids aren't involved, it's time to break up a relationship when there's no longer any mutual benefit. "If you aren't getting what you want or need from being with someone, it's time to move on," says Dr. Neder.
While many people may view this as selfish, Dr. Neder says it can't be good for either person when one person is unfulfilled. It's much healthier to find a relationship that works for you and gives you what you need, than to cling to one that causes dissatisfaction.
"We all know people who are in unhealthy relationships, but either will not or cannot leave them," says Dr. Neder. "These people use all of their energies propping up the sagging relationship. Life is too short for this," he continues. In Dr. Neder's opinion, relationships should enhance your journey. The problem is, many people give up their journeys to take on someone else's. It's better to decide where you're going, find others who are on their own paths and then see where you might fit together, he says. "Give more thought to what you're looking for before creating your relationships," he advises. That way you're more likely have healthy relationships and end unhealthy ones quickly.
Breaking Up Is Hard to Do
Many people involved in long-term relationships find that they have given up their dreams, plans and future to "fit" into someone else's. The difficulty in breaking up often stems from people forgetting how to be self-sufficient. This creates a fear of loss and insecurity, which fuels the desire to keep unhealthy relationships together.
Neder says that we need to understand that we're alone throughout our entire lives — even when we're with someone else. "It's not a bad thing," says Dr. Neder, "in fact, it is quite freeing for most people."
Should You Break Up?
Everyone experiences low points in their relationships. That's normal and most couples work through these times. While the experts say there are no formulas for deciding when to break up, there are signs to watch for. If you experience more than a few consistently over a long period, it's probably time to move on.
Ways to Know if You Should Break It Off Here are some ways to know if you should break it off.
Is it time to leave your relationship?
You've given it your all. You've even tried counselling. You're considering leaving the relationship and even though things still aren't working right, you're not sure if leaving the relationship is the best thing to do. We talk about when to leave a relationship in this article so you can decide for yourself if leaving the relationship you are in is right for you.
Dennis Neder, an ordained minister and author of Being a Man in a Woman's World, says as long as kids aren't involved, it's time to break up a relationship when there's no longer any mutual benefit. "If you aren't getting what you want or need from being with someone, it's time to move on," says Dr. Neder.
While many people may view this as selfish, Dr. Neder says it can't be good for either person when one person is unfulfilled. It's much healthier to find a relationship that works for you and gives you what you need, than to cling to one that causes dissatisfaction.
"We all know people who are in unhealthy relationships, but either will not or cannot leave them," says Dr. Neder. "These people use all of their energies propping up the sagging relationship. Life is too short for this," he continues. In Dr. Neder's opinion, relationships should enhance your journey. The problem is, many people give up their journeys to take on someone else's. It's better to decide where you're going, find others who are on their own paths and then see where you might fit together, he says. "Give more thought to what you're looking for before creating your relationships," he advises. That way you're more likely have healthy relationships and end unhealthy ones quickly.
Breaking Up Is Hard to Do
Many people involved in long-term relationships find that they have given up their dreams, plans and future to "fit" into someone else's. The difficulty in breaking up often stems from people forgetting how to be self-sufficient. This creates a fear of loss and insecurity, which fuels the desire to keep unhealthy relationships together.
Neder says that we need to understand that we're alone throughout our entire lives — even when we're with someone else. "It's not a bad thing," says Dr. Neder, "in fact, it is quite freeing for most people."
Should You Break Up?
Everyone experiences low points in their relationships. That's normal and most couples work through these times. While the experts say there are no formulas for deciding when to break up, there are signs to watch for. If you experience more than a few consistently over a long period, it's probably time to move on.
Ways to Know if You Should Break It Off Here are some ways to know if you should break it off.
- You're no longer getting what you want or need from the relationship. Let's face it. If you're not happy, chances are your partner isn't either.
- You can no longer communicate with your partner. Everyone has different communication styles, says Laurie Moore, Ph.D., author of Creative Intimacy and Choosing a Life Mate Wisely. "However, you don't want to spend all of your time in the relationship trying to communicate with each other. It's just too much work.
- You no longer look forward to spending time alone with your partner. You may still have a good sex life, but you don't talk to your partner. You prefer to spend time with other people to avoid being alone together.
- You criticize or micro-manage your partner. If you're always concerned with some aspect of your partner's personality or appearance, don't look at them — look at yourself. People who are in love overlook minor annoyances and see the bigger picture.
- You compare your partner to others. When you love someone, you don't compare him or her to others. If you find yourself doing this, you should re-evaluate your relationship.
- You try to change your partner. Often we fall in love with people who don't suit us. If you find that you're constantly trying to change your partner, it may be time to move on.
- You don't laugh anymore. Humor is something that all relationships need. If you no longer find his jokes funny, or you can't have lighthearted conversations, it may be a sign that the relationship has lost its zing.
- You're doing all the giving (or all the getting). Relationships are about mutual benefit. If one partner is benefiting over the other, the relationship is unhealthy.
- Your friends no longer like being around you when you're with your partner. Your friends may like your partner, but they no longer like the affect your partner has on you. Dr. Northrup says when a relationship's not right, our friends tell us the truth and often are the first to see when a relationship turns sour.
- You no longer feel good about yourself. Think about how it felt when you first fell in love with your partner. If this feeling is lacking, you may want to look at your relationship.
Worldly selfish love is hateful, divisive, cruel and blessed by the Devil. Selfish love has one person in mine – self. Our world believes that it is unrealistic that we should commit ourselves to one another for life. Yet, without this unconditional commitment there can be no true love; for true love last forever because it is eternal.
The world’s view of love is that it is a feeling. Our love last as long as there is a romantic feeling. When this feeling is gone, then our love is gone. My wife is an activity director at a nursing home. There is this one couple that sits on the front porch of that nursing home daily. The woman is debilitated mentally and physically as the result of a stroke. The husband comes to see her two or three times a day. He sits and rubs her hand and carries on a conversation with her, although there is usually little or no response from his wife. I admire him, for he is there every day. His love for her has not died through the most difficult of times. His love for her goes beyond romantic feelings, it goes beyond his need to have his needs fulfilled; it has entered into a commitment where when she suffers he suffers with her.
"To love somebody is not just a strong feeling—it is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise." (Erich Fromm, "The Art of Loving (New York: Harper & Row, 1956, p. 56.)
The world’s view of love is that I am loved as long as my needs are met, and I can love another as long as my needs are met. It is a conditional love that last as long as I am happy. The world's view of love is based upon how we feel about our needs being met.
Perhaps the best approach to finding a long term commitment is to become aware of what we don’t want.
The world’s view of love is that it is a feeling. Our love last as long as there is a romantic feeling. When this feeling is gone, then our love is gone. My wife is an activity director at a nursing home. There is this one couple that sits on the front porch of that nursing home daily. The woman is debilitated mentally and physically as the result of a stroke. The husband comes to see her two or three times a day. He sits and rubs her hand and carries on a conversation with her, although there is usually little or no response from his wife. I admire him, for he is there every day. His love for her has not died through the most difficult of times. His love for her goes beyond romantic feelings, it goes beyond his need to have his needs fulfilled; it has entered into a commitment where when she suffers he suffers with her.
"To love somebody is not just a strong feeling—it is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise." (Erich Fromm, "The Art of Loving (New York: Harper & Row, 1956, p. 56.)
The world’s view of love is that I am loved as long as my needs are met, and I can love another as long as my needs are met. It is a conditional love that last as long as I am happy. The world's view of love is based upon how we feel about our needs being met.
Perhaps the best approach to finding a long term commitment is to become aware of what we don’t want.
I’ll do anything for you!
There are lots of people out there who really feel this endearing willingness constitutes love. The truth is it constitutes co-dependency. Anyone who is willing to give himself or herself up completely for you, will, in the not too distant future, be expecting the return of that favor. When it is not forthcoming…you can expect to hear things like, I have given you everything and what have I gotten in return? A person who is capable of loving you in a whole-souled way, loves himself or herself as well. In fact they are not able to commit to you or put you first in their lives as a partner, unless they are committed to themselves and first in their own lives…not in a selfish, but rather, a self-loving way. This kind of attraction is not about being an adult who can give love equally. It’s about a lack of maturity or an inner child who needs to be nurtured and taken care of. Ask yourself, Do I want to be a parent or a partner?
Everyone one else I’ve been with has abandoned me!
There is probably a reason. People who abandon themselves and don’t have good boundaries that are self-respecting often get abandoned because it’s simply too much of a burden to be with this kind of person. No one wants to be responsible for another’s happiness, safety or fulfillment. If you share these things great, but it’s not your job to be responsible for the quality of another person’s life.
Let me tell you about how bad my past partners were!
People who have integrity don’t talk about other people including past lovers. They talk about issues, principles, growth, spirituality and love. You can tell about how mature your prospective partner is by how they treat their families and their past partners. Yes, there are times when we must set good boundaries and we might decide a person is not the kind of individual we want in our lives. But we don’t run all over town airing our dirty laundry about the ugliness. We simply move on and learn from our mistakes.
I want to spend every minute with you.
This is not love. This is insecurity and control. Love takes a break, spends time with friends and comes home to share. Love wants you to grow, do the things that make you happy and does not expect 24-hour attention. Control, insecurity and the need to possess underlie this kind of behaviour. When someone wants to know where you are every minute and what you are doing and with whom, you are in trouble. This is an unstable person who will make your life miserable with doubt and jealousy. No matter how much you reassure him or her, it will never be enough because it’s not your problem. It’s theirs. It’s a lack of self-confidence and self-esteem. Ask yourself, How does my partner make me feel? If you feel afraid to be open, truthful, make decisions that are right for you or if you find yourself withholding information because your partner will become angry or hurt, this is not the right relationship for you. Move on.
True love is based on freedom and truth. It is never about control, coercion, ownership, possession or material gain. It’s about giving. When you want to know the truth of someone’s heart watch what they do not what they say. You can always tell what someone is really like or what they really believe by watching what happens beyond the words.
There are lots of people out there who really feel this endearing willingness constitutes love. The truth is it constitutes co-dependency. Anyone who is willing to give himself or herself up completely for you, will, in the not too distant future, be expecting the return of that favor. When it is not forthcoming…you can expect to hear things like, I have given you everything and what have I gotten in return? A person who is capable of loving you in a whole-souled way, loves himself or herself as well. In fact they are not able to commit to you or put you first in their lives as a partner, unless they are committed to themselves and first in their own lives…not in a selfish, but rather, a self-loving way. This kind of attraction is not about being an adult who can give love equally. It’s about a lack of maturity or an inner child who needs to be nurtured and taken care of. Ask yourself, Do I want to be a parent or a partner?
Everyone one else I’ve been with has abandoned me!
There is probably a reason. People who abandon themselves and don’t have good boundaries that are self-respecting often get abandoned because it’s simply too much of a burden to be with this kind of person. No one wants to be responsible for another’s happiness, safety or fulfillment. If you share these things great, but it’s not your job to be responsible for the quality of another person’s life.
Let me tell you about how bad my past partners were!
People who have integrity don’t talk about other people including past lovers. They talk about issues, principles, growth, spirituality and love. You can tell about how mature your prospective partner is by how they treat their families and their past partners. Yes, there are times when we must set good boundaries and we might decide a person is not the kind of individual we want in our lives. But we don’t run all over town airing our dirty laundry about the ugliness. We simply move on and learn from our mistakes.
I want to spend every minute with you.
This is not love. This is insecurity and control. Love takes a break, spends time with friends and comes home to share. Love wants you to grow, do the things that make you happy and does not expect 24-hour attention. Control, insecurity and the need to possess underlie this kind of behaviour. When someone wants to know where you are every minute and what you are doing and with whom, you are in trouble. This is an unstable person who will make your life miserable with doubt and jealousy. No matter how much you reassure him or her, it will never be enough because it’s not your problem. It’s theirs. It’s a lack of self-confidence and self-esteem. Ask yourself, How does my partner make me feel? If you feel afraid to be open, truthful, make decisions that are right for you or if you find yourself withholding information because your partner will become angry or hurt, this is not the right relationship for you. Move on.
True love is based on freedom and truth. It is never about control, coercion, ownership, possession or material gain. It’s about giving. When you want to know the truth of someone’s heart watch what they do not what they say. You can always tell what someone is really like or what they really believe by watching what happens beyond the words.
Lust
Lust is an intense feeling. Lust could be between human beings or you could even lust after money or other material objects. When one is in lust, normally the thinking cap slips off and the results could be disastrous. Deep and clear analysis and understanding the nature of your lust is very much needed. Lust is also a desire for self-gratification but much more powerful than a romantic love. When you lust after somebody or something, your strong craving to get that person or object tends to make you transgress borders. Controlling the emotion of lust is very difficult. Most of the time, after you have attained the person or object that you lusted after, a guilty feeling sets in. Lust is purely based on a physical need. Unfortunately, this is where most young people around the world trip. Confusing a physical feeling of lust as an attraction based on genuine emotion emanating from the heart and soul as love leads many young people to marry in haste and regret later.
Love requires discipline and commitment while lust needs no such positive attributes to manifest. Love is focused on the growth, improvement and comfort of the person who is the object of love. On the other hand, lust is focused on the satisfaction of the self and that too, mainly of the physical kind. Though, it may not necessarily be physical alone. Since love requires a commitment, a certain amount of discipline is necessary because you cannot harm the person you love whether physically or emotionally. In lust, no discipline is maintained as the person who is the object of lust becomes a subject of utility to be discarded once the purpose of self-satisfaction is fulfilled.
While love leads to spirituality, lust leads to materialism. While love is an evolutionary positive force, lust is a destructive negative force.
Current movies, books, television shows and magazines are full of impressions and suggestions about sex. We have examples all around us of couples engaging in pre-marital and extra-marital sex. There's no way around it—today's culture fills our minds with hundreds of reasons to just go ahead and have sex outside of marriage.
The common idea in modern 20th century western society is that inhibitions are bad (especially inhibitions related to sex). Everyone is trying to break down and destroy inhibitions. The whole society is down on them. Thus we have Playboy, Playgirl and a flood of pornography; we have nudity and open sex in 95% of the movies coming out of Hollywood; the psychiatrists are down on them and blame them for every mental malady and maladjustment under the sun; the public is installing sex education in the schools to stomp them out; people are running around nude in front of their children so that they won't grow up oppressed by inhibitions; they let their boys and girls sleep together into their teenage years with the same purpose in mind; our modern day novelists are down on them and make open sex and a preoccupation with sex the main thrust of their works (they justify all this in the name of "realism"); the whole society becomes charmed and excited over mini-skirts (just another thrust against inhibitions); Madison Avenue is doing its share in the battle with its preoccupation with sensuous, lust-provoking, scantily clothed women as advertising gimmicks; the modern intellectuals and liberals are down on them in the name of "enlightenment" and "progress", disdainfully regarding them as "Victorian", "Puritan" and "old fashioned". But what are inhibitions? The F&W dictionary defines them as "a checking or restraining; a self-imposed restriction on one's behaviour." Isn't this exactly the function that conscience performs? Doesn't conscience check and restrain us from doing those things which, down in our heart of hearts, we know is wrong?
We speak of destroying inhibitions but aren't we really just trying to destroy conscience? Isn't the whole attack really one against our whole sense of moral (sexual) right and wrong? Isn't it all really just an attempt to legitimize simple immorality (whether it be adultery, fornication or whatever)? Sex is viewed, first, as just a natural biological urge, a natural appetite, a fact of life, and then the question is posed "Why should one be asked to fight against nature, why should one not be perfectly free to indulge a natural, biological urge?" (and the assumption is that the only reasonable and rational answer is that there is no reason).
Lust is an intense feeling. Lust could be between human beings or you could even lust after money or other material objects. When one is in lust, normally the thinking cap slips off and the results could be disastrous. Deep and clear analysis and understanding the nature of your lust is very much needed. Lust is also a desire for self-gratification but much more powerful than a romantic love. When you lust after somebody or something, your strong craving to get that person or object tends to make you transgress borders. Controlling the emotion of lust is very difficult. Most of the time, after you have attained the person or object that you lusted after, a guilty feeling sets in. Lust is purely based on a physical need. Unfortunately, this is where most young people around the world trip. Confusing a physical feeling of lust as an attraction based on genuine emotion emanating from the heart and soul as love leads many young people to marry in haste and regret later.
Love requires discipline and commitment while lust needs no such positive attributes to manifest. Love is focused on the growth, improvement and comfort of the person who is the object of love. On the other hand, lust is focused on the satisfaction of the self and that too, mainly of the physical kind. Though, it may not necessarily be physical alone. Since love requires a commitment, a certain amount of discipline is necessary because you cannot harm the person you love whether physically or emotionally. In lust, no discipline is maintained as the person who is the object of lust becomes a subject of utility to be discarded once the purpose of self-satisfaction is fulfilled.
While love leads to spirituality, lust leads to materialism. While love is an evolutionary positive force, lust is a destructive negative force.
Current movies, books, television shows and magazines are full of impressions and suggestions about sex. We have examples all around us of couples engaging in pre-marital and extra-marital sex. There's no way around it—today's culture fills our minds with hundreds of reasons to just go ahead and have sex outside of marriage.
The common idea in modern 20th century western society is that inhibitions are bad (especially inhibitions related to sex). Everyone is trying to break down and destroy inhibitions. The whole society is down on them. Thus we have Playboy, Playgirl and a flood of pornography; we have nudity and open sex in 95% of the movies coming out of Hollywood; the psychiatrists are down on them and blame them for every mental malady and maladjustment under the sun; the public is installing sex education in the schools to stomp them out; people are running around nude in front of their children so that they won't grow up oppressed by inhibitions; they let their boys and girls sleep together into their teenage years with the same purpose in mind; our modern day novelists are down on them and make open sex and a preoccupation with sex the main thrust of their works (they justify all this in the name of "realism"); the whole society becomes charmed and excited over mini-skirts (just another thrust against inhibitions); Madison Avenue is doing its share in the battle with its preoccupation with sensuous, lust-provoking, scantily clothed women as advertising gimmicks; the modern intellectuals and liberals are down on them in the name of "enlightenment" and "progress", disdainfully regarding them as "Victorian", "Puritan" and "old fashioned". But what are inhibitions? The F&W dictionary defines them as "a checking or restraining; a self-imposed restriction on one's behaviour." Isn't this exactly the function that conscience performs? Doesn't conscience check and restrain us from doing those things which, down in our heart of hearts, we know is wrong?
We speak of destroying inhibitions but aren't we really just trying to destroy conscience? Isn't the whole attack really one against our whole sense of moral (sexual) right and wrong? Isn't it all really just an attempt to legitimize simple immorality (whether it be adultery, fornication or whatever)? Sex is viewed, first, as just a natural biological urge, a natural appetite, a fact of life, and then the question is posed "Why should one be asked to fight against nature, why should one not be perfectly free to indulge a natural, biological urge?" (and the assumption is that the only reasonable and rational answer is that there is no reason).
So our modern society has been (and still is) engaged in a great battle --- to undermine, erode and destroy morality. And we now have the "Sexual Revolution", the "New Morality" (really just the old immorality), "Situation Ethics", "Moral Relativism", etc.. What happens when one loses his sense of
right and wrong? What does it do to a society when its members, in mass, lose their moral conscience? How about confusion, frustration, anger and misery for the individual and a wholesale tendency toward family disintegration, divorce, disillusioned and angry children, suicide, huge crops of illegitimate children, alcoholism, drug addiction, violence and crime for the answer?
For the purpose of this report we are only going to discuss the main issues of lust in our world today.
Adultery
Our World’s View If we had to sum up our world’s view of adultery, it would be this: it’s no big deal.
At the same time, our society holds marriage to be “old fashioned.” This is particularly true of sex; liberated women have sex with a different man each night until Prince Charming shows up. They move in together and, if everything works out, get married a few years later. (Telling the prince from the toad is still a problem, however.)
Why this? Because marriage is viewed by those shacked up together as an expression of love – he wants to make it permanent. Even in these times marriage is somehow to be seen as permanent. Even though we treat it as temporary.
right and wrong? What does it do to a society when its members, in mass, lose their moral conscience? How about confusion, frustration, anger and misery for the individual and a wholesale tendency toward family disintegration, divorce, disillusioned and angry children, suicide, huge crops of illegitimate children, alcoholism, drug addiction, violence and crime for the answer?
For the purpose of this report we are only going to discuss the main issues of lust in our world today.
Adultery
Our World’s View If we had to sum up our world’s view of adultery, it would be this: it’s no big deal.
- We call it “an affair” – like a party. In this we see how Satan twists words so that sin is seen as a lovely thing.
- We accord ourselves (and others) permission for adultery if there is any sign of trouble in the marriage. Even when there was no trouble, it’s viewed as the inevitable outcome of “falling in love.” Passion alone justifies four bare legs in a bed.
- If it does cause trouble in a marriage, our attitude is, “You can always get a divorce.”
- First, the attitude that “marriage is slavery.” This has been sold to three generations of women now, which ought to have exterminated church weddings in general. It seems that this is the excuse after the fact.
- Next, the best way to deal with the double standard (in adultery, at least) is the attitude, “I can do it too.” You are to empower yourself to destroy your marriage (which, being slavery, is now good.)
- “A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle.” I, woman, am strong (and arrogant). The problem here is that her kids need a father desperately.
At the same time, our society holds marriage to be “old fashioned.” This is particularly true of sex; liberated women have sex with a different man each night until Prince Charming shows up. They move in together and, if everything works out, get married a few years later. (Telling the prince from the toad is still a problem, however.)
Why this? Because marriage is viewed by those shacked up together as an expression of love – he wants to make it permanent. Even in these times marriage is somehow to be seen as permanent. Even though we treat it as temporary.
Fornification
Fornication is not just tolerated in our society but is actually being encouraged. The sin of fornication is being committed even among Christians, as many couples "live together" and have sex before marriage
We must live our lives in purity before a sinful and wicked world. We should not be living according to their standards but according to God's standard in the Bible. No couple should live together outside the bonds of marriage. Many say they live together before marriage to see if they are compatible as they don't want to divorce. This may sound like a justifiable reason for committing the sin of fornication, but in God's eyes it is still sin. Statistics however, show that those who live together before marriage are more likely to get a divorce than those who do not.
Living together shows a total lack of trust in God and a failure to commit to Him the choosing of a mate. They are living to please their own lust and selfish desires. This type of life style is destructive and especially so for children whose parents are living a bad example before them. No wonder our children are confused about right and wrong when parents degrade the sanctity of marriage by living together out of wedlock. How can living together cause children to love and honour God when their parents break the laws of God before them because they are lustful? Young people today need to be taught to abstain from sexual intercourse and remain pure virgins before marriage.
All prostitutes and pimps are fornicators. Couples who just "live together" according to the Bible, are committing the same sin that whores commit. Singles who "make love" fall into the same category. Just because society has accepted this type of living does not make it right. The Bible must be our standard of what is right and wrong. We must change our standards if we do not want the wrath of God to fall on us. God hates sin but He loves the sinner. If anyone repents and calls on Jesus today He will help them to come out of any illicit relationship and heal them of all past hurts and even heal any disease that they may have contracted.
God gave us the laws in the Bible for our good. They are not meant to deny us any good thing but they are given so we can enjoy the proper sexual relationship in the proper time. If we obey the words of the Bible and "flee fornication" and glorify God in our bodies, the Lord will bless us beyond what we could believe. Psalm 145:17-21: "The LORD is righteous in all his ways, and holy in all his works. The LORD is nigh unto all them that call upon him, to all that call upon him in truth. He will fulfil the desire of them that fear him: he also will hear their cry, and will save them. The LORD preserveth all them that love him: but all the wicked will he destroy. My mouth shall speak the praise of the LORD: and let all flesh bless his holy name for ever and ever."
Fornication is not just tolerated in our society but is actually being encouraged. The sin of fornication is being committed even among Christians, as many couples "live together" and have sex before marriage
We must live our lives in purity before a sinful and wicked world. We should not be living according to their standards but according to God's standard in the Bible. No couple should live together outside the bonds of marriage. Many say they live together before marriage to see if they are compatible as they don't want to divorce. This may sound like a justifiable reason for committing the sin of fornication, but in God's eyes it is still sin. Statistics however, show that those who live together before marriage are more likely to get a divorce than those who do not.
Living together shows a total lack of trust in God and a failure to commit to Him the choosing of a mate. They are living to please their own lust and selfish desires. This type of life style is destructive and especially so for children whose parents are living a bad example before them. No wonder our children are confused about right and wrong when parents degrade the sanctity of marriage by living together out of wedlock. How can living together cause children to love and honour God when their parents break the laws of God before them because they are lustful? Young people today need to be taught to abstain from sexual intercourse and remain pure virgins before marriage.
All prostitutes and pimps are fornicators. Couples who just "live together" according to the Bible, are committing the same sin that whores commit. Singles who "make love" fall into the same category. Just because society has accepted this type of living does not make it right. The Bible must be our standard of what is right and wrong. We must change our standards if we do not want the wrath of God to fall on us. God hates sin but He loves the sinner. If anyone repents and calls on Jesus today He will help them to come out of any illicit relationship and heal them of all past hurts and even heal any disease that they may have contracted.
God gave us the laws in the Bible for our good. They are not meant to deny us any good thing but they are given so we can enjoy the proper sexual relationship in the proper time. If we obey the words of the Bible and "flee fornication" and glorify God in our bodies, the Lord will bless us beyond what we could believe. Psalm 145:17-21: "The LORD is righteous in all his ways, and holy in all his works. The LORD is nigh unto all them that call upon him, to all that call upon him in truth. He will fulfil the desire of them that fear him: he also will hear their cry, and will save them. The LORD preserveth all them that love him: but all the wicked will he destroy. My mouth shall speak the praise of the LORD: and let all flesh bless his holy name for ever and ever."
Homosexuality
The Gay Rights movement has been gaining ground over the past 40 years. The National Gay and Lesbian Task Force has become a well organized and powerful group which promotes rights and privileges for Gay Homosexual Men and Lesbians. This powerful group uses the courts to gain new rights, and is advocating that Marriage be legal between 2 men or between 2 women.
The Bible states that Marriage is intended as a union between a Man and a Women in which children are produced, forming the family unit. This is also the natural process in nature where a male and female unite to continue the species. Every society in the world recognizes marriage and the family as the foundation for a civil society, which has been the norm for over 5000 years of recorded history.
Gays say that Christians should be tolerant of their lifestyle. Society has been tolerant of the Gay community for the most part, and has allowed them to live their lifestyle unopposed. This tolerance ends with many Gays starting to demand that they have the right to enter a marriage with their gay partners, or they want to become boyscout leaders, or teach the homosexual life style to classrooms which include children who parents feel this is immoral.
The Gay community feels threatened if a person says that homosexual behaviour is immoral and a sin that God forbids, as stated in the Bible. Therefore the Gay community seeks to abolish free speech by labling such expressions as Hate Speech. A bill in congress would make quoting the Bible a federal crime, the Hate Speech Crime Bill. There is no toleration in the Gay community for free speech if it offends them.
The Gay Rights movement has been gaining ground over the past 40 years. The National Gay and Lesbian Task Force has become a well organized and powerful group which promotes rights and privileges for Gay Homosexual Men and Lesbians. This powerful group uses the courts to gain new rights, and is advocating that Marriage be legal between 2 men or between 2 women.
The Bible states that Marriage is intended as a union between a Man and a Women in which children are produced, forming the family unit. This is also the natural process in nature where a male and female unite to continue the species. Every society in the world recognizes marriage and the family as the foundation for a civil society, which has been the norm for over 5000 years of recorded history.
Gays say that Christians should be tolerant of their lifestyle. Society has been tolerant of the Gay community for the most part, and has allowed them to live their lifestyle unopposed. This tolerance ends with many Gays starting to demand that they have the right to enter a marriage with their gay partners, or they want to become boyscout leaders, or teach the homosexual life style to classrooms which include children who parents feel this is immoral.
The Gay community feels threatened if a person says that homosexual behaviour is immoral and a sin that God forbids, as stated in the Bible. Therefore the Gay community seeks to abolish free speech by labling such expressions as Hate Speech. A bill in congress would make quoting the Bible a federal crime, the Hate Speech Crime Bill. There is no toleration in the Gay community for free speech if it offends them.
Legalizing Same-Sex Marriage will criminalize Christianity! One goal of the Gay Lesbian Movement is to silence the churches. Hate crime laws and anti-discrimination laws will mean the criminalization of anyone who dares to disagree with their lifestyle. All who will not call Gays normal will be labeled Homophobic, or worse. Churches that preach that Homosexual activity is wrong or refuse to perform Homosexual Marriages will be hauled into court. Examples from across the border in Canada where a Christian businessman was fined $5,000 for refusing to print materials for a gay-rights group.
The Secular Worldview - Homosexuality should be accepted and taught as normal. What goes on in privicy between two consulting adults is nobody elses business, including the government. Gays should have equal rights as other members in society, including Same-Sex Marriage. Discrimination for sexual preference should be un-Constitutional. Sex is OK outside of marriage, with homosexual partners. Many in the Gay movement say that sex with children is OK and should be legalized.
The Christian Worldview - Homosexuality is a sin as declared by God of the Bible. Marriage is only defined as a union between one Man and one Woman. Our society will be in grave danger of collapse if Homosexuality becomes an accepted norm by legalizing Same-Sex Marriage. Legalizing SIN well bring the strong judgment of God in our country.
Something's Missing
Worldliness, like any other sin, can never truly satisfy the soul. Even the unsaved, if they live long enough and gain any measure of wisdom, often come to understand this. Media fixture Ted Koppel has written,
So many people are, on paper, indisputably fortunate to live in such an unbelievably rich and blessed nation. And yet these Americans do not strike me, by and large, as a happy people. There is a sullen edge to our satisfaction.... And the worst part is that we don't seem altogether sure of what we're missing.
What's missing is the fruit of the gospel. There is no future in worldliness, but there is an eternal future in godliness. Only godliness delivers as advertised. When informed by an eternal perspective, the things of this world are exposed as worthless.
The Secular Worldview - Homosexuality should be accepted and taught as normal. What goes on in privicy between two consulting adults is nobody elses business, including the government. Gays should have equal rights as other members in society, including Same-Sex Marriage. Discrimination for sexual preference should be un-Constitutional. Sex is OK outside of marriage, with homosexual partners. Many in the Gay movement say that sex with children is OK and should be legalized.
The Christian Worldview - Homosexuality is a sin as declared by God of the Bible. Marriage is only defined as a union between one Man and one Woman. Our society will be in grave danger of collapse if Homosexuality becomes an accepted norm by legalizing Same-Sex Marriage. Legalizing SIN well bring the strong judgment of God in our country.
Something's Missing
Worldliness, like any other sin, can never truly satisfy the soul. Even the unsaved, if they live long enough and gain any measure of wisdom, often come to understand this. Media fixture Ted Koppel has written,
So many people are, on paper, indisputably fortunate to live in such an unbelievably rich and blessed nation. And yet these Americans do not strike me, by and large, as a happy people. There is a sullen edge to our satisfaction.... And the worst part is that we don't seem altogether sure of what we're missing.
What's missing is the fruit of the gospel. There is no future in worldliness, but there is an eternal future in godliness. Only godliness delivers as advertised. When informed by an eternal perspective, the things of this world are exposed as worthless.
The Lust, The Flesh, The Eyes & The Pride Of Life
from the album "Eighty Eight"
(Mike Roe)
Well, I feel
Like I have to feel
Something good all of the time
With most of life I cannot deal
But a good feeling I can feel
Even though it may not be real
And if a person, place or thing can deliver
I will quiver with delight
But will it last me for all my life
Or just one more lonely night
The lust, the flesh
The eyes
And the pride of life
Drain the life
Right out of me
Well, I see something and I want it
Bam! Right now!
No questions asked
Don't worry how much it costs me now or later
I want it and I want it fast
I'll go to any length
Sacrifice all that I already have
And all that I might get
Just to get
Something more that I don't need
And Lord, please don't ask me what for
The lust, the flesh
The eyes
And the pride of life
Drain the life
Right out of me
And I love when folks
Look right at me
And what I'm doing
Or have done
And lay it on about
How groovy I am
And that I'm looking grand
And every single word
Makes me think I'll live forever
Never knowing that they probably
Won't remember what they said tomorrow
Tomorrow I could be dead
The lust, the flesh
The eyes
And the pride of life
Drain the life
Right out of me
© 1986 Fools Of The World, LTD. (ASCAP)
from the album "Eighty Eight"
(Mike Roe)
Well, I feel
Like I have to feel
Something good all of the time
With most of life I cannot deal
But a good feeling I can feel
Even though it may not be real
And if a person, place or thing can deliver
I will quiver with delight
But will it last me for all my life
Or just one more lonely night
The lust, the flesh
The eyes
And the pride of life
Drain the life
Right out of me
Well, I see something and I want it
Bam! Right now!
No questions asked
Don't worry how much it costs me now or later
I want it and I want it fast
I'll go to any length
Sacrifice all that I already have
And all that I might get
Just to get
Something more that I don't need
And Lord, please don't ask me what for
The lust, the flesh
The eyes
And the pride of life
Drain the life
Right out of me
And I love when folks
Look right at me
And what I'm doing
Or have done
And lay it on about
How groovy I am
And that I'm looking grand
And every single word
Makes me think I'll live forever
Never knowing that they probably
Won't remember what they said tomorrow
Tomorrow I could be dead
The lust, the flesh
The eyes
And the pride of life
Drain the life
Right out of me
© 1986 Fools Of The World, LTD. (ASCAP)
Below are some funny quotes from celebrity's on marriage, but it makes the point well, that in the world's eye's, marriage is all about my own personal feelings, the idea that love and marriage can be part of the will is laughable to the modern mind. But nothing will lead a person away from happiness more quickly than being ruled by our feelings. I loved watching Lance Armstrong do the mountain climbs in the tour De France, he was using every inch of his will, and what a great gift the will is, but the will is not only for sports and work, its also for love. When we direct our romance to ignite proper passions to the one we should be loving, we are using our will. Have a look at the striking contrast between the saints and the celebrities.
"In Hollywood a marriage is a success if it outlasts milk. "
Rita Rudner
"We were happily married for eight months. Unfortunately, we were married for four and a half years. "
Nick Faldo
"My toughest fight was with my first wife."
Muhammad Ali (1942 - )
"There's only one way to have a happy marriage and as soon as I learn what it is I'll get married again. "
Clint Eastwood (1930 - )
Da Saints:
"As the family goes, so goes the nation and so goes the whole world in which we live. " Pope John Paul II
"Marriage is an act of will that signifies and involves a mutual gift, which unites the spouses and binds them to their eventual souls, with whom they make up a sole family - a domestic church." Pope John Paul II
"When the glamour wears off, or merely works a bit thin, they think they have made a mistake, and that the real soul-mate is still to find. The real soul-mate too often proves to be the next sexually attractive person that comes along."
"Nearly all marriages, even happy ones, are mistakes: in the sense that almost certainly (in a more perfect world, or even with a little more care in this very imperfect one) both partners might be found more suitable mates. But the real soul-mate is the one you are actually married to. " JR Tolkien
"In Hollywood a marriage is a success if it outlasts milk. "
Rita Rudner
"We were happily married for eight months. Unfortunately, we were married for four and a half years. "
Nick Faldo
"My toughest fight was with my first wife."
Muhammad Ali (1942 - )
"There's only one way to have a happy marriage and as soon as I learn what it is I'll get married again. "
Clint Eastwood (1930 - )
Da Saints:
"As the family goes, so goes the nation and so goes the whole world in which we live. " Pope John Paul II
"Marriage is an act of will that signifies and involves a mutual gift, which unites the spouses and binds them to their eventual souls, with whom they make up a sole family - a domestic church." Pope John Paul II
"When the glamour wears off, or merely works a bit thin, they think they have made a mistake, and that the real soul-mate is still to find. The real soul-mate too often proves to be the next sexually attractive person that comes along."
"Nearly all marriages, even happy ones, are mistakes: in the sense that almost certainly (in a more perfect world, or even with a little more care in this very imperfect one) both partners might be found more suitable mates. But the real soul-mate is the one you are actually married to. " JR Tolkien
