Epithumia: Advantages

Infatuation is the beginning of the relationship when you love every little thing about a person and you can't stop thinking about them.

You will desire your beloved one. You will desire their company very much. You will desire them in all kinds of ways. 

Research shows, in many cases, love can heal as powerfully as medicine, so here's some great reasons to fall in love… 

Love makes you smarter
Falling in love induces a calming effect on the body and mind by raising levels of nerve growth for about a year. This hormone-like substance helps to restore the nervous system and improves memory by triggering the growth of new brain cells. 
(Sify News 2007.)

Love benefits your immune, endocrine and cardiovascular systems
Research shows that loving acts neutralise the kind of negative emotions that adversely affect immune, endocrine and cardiovascular function. 
(Stephen Post Ph.D professor of bioethics and religion at Ohio's Case Western University.)

The brain becomes "fired up" when talking to someone it finds attractive and sends impulses to the heart making it pound three times faster than normal. This results in increased blood supply to the body, specifically the cheeks and sexual organs, which gives us the feeling of butterflies in the stomach. 
(Dr John Marsden PhD. chartered psychologist and senior lecturer at London's Institute of Psychiatry.)

A study conducted at the University of North Carolina found that couples who spent time in close physical contact, including hugging and talking with each other, had higher levels of oxytocin — the love hormone. Women also benefited from lower blood pressure. The authors speculated that greater oxytocin levels may increase the probability of future positive interactions, so that oxytocin and partner bonding reciprocate in a positive feedback loop.

Love can lower your cholesterol
Research has shown that expressing your feelings of affection can reduce cholesterol levels. A study in Human Communication Research found that people who wrote about their feelings of affection for significant friends, relatives, and/or romantic partners had significantly lower cholesterol levels than those that didn't.

Infatuation does powerful, magical things. Infatuation 'magnifies' the intensity of feelings you get from shared experiences with your partner. Real love is the sum of the positive bonds you build up from shared positive experiences with your partner. The size of the good feeling is intensified, or 'magnified' by the madness of infatuation.

Infatuation always seeks the good and positive side, blinding the naked eye of accepting one's flaws.

Surely remembering how that infatuation we encountered and thought is love at that moment, made us smile. The way we turned flashing red when we're being teased, or the pink handkerchief of yours he picked on the floor which you kept for years, or the day he said 'hi' leaving you blank and totally speechless, and so on - these things will always remind us what infatuation means and will continue to paint our faces with silly grins.

Epithumia: Difficulties

Infatuation tends to fade over time.

Infatuation is an intense feeling of possessiveness, lust, excitement and insecurity.

There’s always a fear in infatuation. Fear of losing the person, fear of commitment and also that of a relationship.

Infatuation wears off fast. It is usually an intense feeling which doesn’t stay long.

Infatuation weakens with distance and time. If you are not in touch with your infatuated partner for a long while, it will tend to weaken and eventually wear off.

Infatuation is superficial. One is usually infatuated by another person’s looks, attitude and behaviour.

Infatuation is vulnerable and fragile. It can never strike a perfect chord with trust, harmony and security. Insecurity, possessiveness and lust always cripple this sort of relationship.

Couples are more aggressive in infatuated relationships. If the relationship doesn’t work out, the couple tends to go aggressive.

There is a lack of understanding.

Infatuation is love which is self-indulgent, obsessive and irrational. It causes people to lose their self-control and perspective. It is often a product of the senses, which is of physical infatuation rather than mental compatibility, thus it is appropriate for Oberon's love potion to be applied to the eyes which is the strongest senses a person depends on to view the world. 

Test of Time – Love benefits and grows through time; infatuate ebbs and diminishes with time.

Test of Knowledge – Love grows out of an appraisal of all the known characteristics of the other person. Infatuation may grow out of an acquaintance with only one of these characteristics known about the other person.

Test of Focus – Genuine love is other-person centered. Infatuation is self-centered.

Test of Singularity – Genuine love is focused on only one person. An infatuated individual may be “in love” with two or more persons simultaneously.

Test of Security – Genuine love requires and fosters a sense of security and feelings of trust. An infatuated individual seems to have a blind sense of security.

Test of Work – An individual in love works for the other person for his or her mutual benefit. By contrast, an infatuated person loses his or her ambition, appetite, and interests in everyday affairs.

Test of Problem Solving – A couple in love faces problems frankly and tries to solve them. Infatuated people tend to disregard or try to ignore problems.

Test of Distance – Love knows the importance of distance. Infatuation imagines love to be intense closeness, 24/7, all the time.

Test of Physical Attraction – Physical attraction is a relatively small part of love, but it is a central focus of infatuation.

Test of Affection – In love affection is expressed later in the relationship, involving the external expression of the physical attraction we just described. In infatuation affection is expressed earlier, sometimes at the very beginning.

Test of Stability - Love tends to endure. Infatuation may change suddenly and unpredictably.

Test of Delayed Gratification – A couple in genuine love in not indifferent to the timing of their wedding, but they do not feel an irresistible drive toward it. An infatuated couple tends to feel an urge to get married – instantly. Postponement for the infatuated is intolerable.